Being rejected sucks! We have all been there. Sometimes over and over (and over again). But do you want to know something? When you look at the world’s most successful business people and leaders, they have all been there too.
But this is what those people do:
- They refuse to let that dismissal or nonacceptance stop them.
- They accept the rejection & don’t look back.
- They understand the rejection allows them to re-direct in a different direction and to select something better.
- They aren’t afraid to let go and move on.
Whether a door has closed in business, or in your personal life, you need to stop stressing over it. Some people will reject you simply because you shine too bright for them. That’s okay. Don’t dim your light to satisfy others, shine intensely and let others see your sparkle. So how do you keep moving forward? Simple. You accept it and you move on. Acceptance doesn’t mean you agree with that outcome, it means you have come to terms with what happened. You don’t even need to understand why. Do NOT waste any more time or your energy worrying about it. When you face rejection, be bold enough to use your voice, brave enough to listen to your heart, and strong enough to continue on. Then you can live the life you’ve always imagined. You owe that to yourself and your family.
You don’t develop courage, strength, and confidence by being comfortable every day. These three things are not developed by living a life that’s easy, uneventful, and full of acceptance. Rather they ARE developed by surviving difficulties, overcoming adversity, and vibrating above rejection. It is through the experience of trials, pain, failure, and suffering that the soul can be strengthened, ambition inspired, and true success achieved. Hard times don’t create heroes. It is during the hard times when the “hero” within us is revealed. So, when obstacles and unintended outcomes arise in your life and doors close in your face, don’t shy away from or give up on your goals. Unleash your “inner hero” by changing your direction and your approach to reach that goal… NEVER change your decision to get there.
When you do this, and remain focused, you will be successful. It may not happen as quickly as you like, but stick with it. Embrace uncomfortability and you will get there. When we become comfortable we become complacent. Events in our life happen for a reason. You’re being placed in a state of uncomfortability & trying times for a reason. It’s there to force you to move….so get moving. Those who embrace discomfort, rejection and “failure” are the ones who ultimately will be successful. There is no growth in the comfort zone and there is no comfort in growth. If you do the things above, you will #movetheball and get across the goal line.
Jennifer A. Garrett is an Army Judge Advocate, a former Fortune 50 executive, a speaker and an executive business coach that motivates, inspires, and empowers people to find their greatness through the use of American football principles. She is the author of “Move the Ball” and is on the Board of Counselors for USC’s Master of Business for Veterans (MBV) Program. She is also on the Board of Directors for the Women’s National Football Conference (WNFC). For more motivational content, you can follow her on LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/movetheball and on Instagram at @movetheball. To learn more about Jennifer’s work and her programs/courses, visit her website at www.jenniferagarrett.com.